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A friend of mine (Laserlight) raised the question of what three questions you would ask of someone you've met before proposing. He sets the scenario such that you have already established very basic compatibility. He further suggests that if you are married you phrase it as 'what I wish I had asked...'
I gave my answer in the comments to his blog. I think it's an interesting question or two. And some of his replies are interesting.
I'll put my own 'probing query' up:
If you could go back and reverse decisions you took (or actions) or else change outcomes, what 3 would you go back and revise?
Please avoid the obvious one: "I'd make sure my lottery ticket won." or the like - "I'd do it all the same again" is acceptable, but perhaps shows you aren't a quick learner or don't believe much in improvement... *grin*
Year in review, 2016 edition
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- Diana recovered from knee replacement.
- Birthday party for Eunhye
- Dominion removed the power line across the river behind our house.
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9 years ago
I should answer my own questions:
ReplyDelete1) I'd have stayed stayed in College in Alberta an extra year if I could change that and still meet all of my excellent Kingston friends. I would have been much better prepared and hopefully have coped better with the challenges of the BSC(Eng).
2) I'd have pursued a more academically-inclined course of education (see proviso about people above). I think I'd have done well on the academic side of computing or in some other science.
3) I'd change the outcome with one of the ones who got away. I'll leave which one unspecific to leave a comfortable ambiguity but she'd know who I meant.
That's my three. I might like to add 4) I'd have won a football bet with Ken and saved myself a lot of money....
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ReplyDeleteLoosely paraphrased some Sartes said that we are the sum of the decisions we make. So in answering the Lux Mentis' question we are actually saying how we would like to change ourselves. I note that he adds a provision that in making the changes there are some losses he find unacceptable.
ReplyDeleteSo with the provision that I'd want to end up the same person with the same friends:
1) I'd have studied law or dentistry rather than engineering. Laws more interesting and dentists seem to be able to print money, having worked for some dentists.
2) I'd have asked my wife out three years earlier.
3)I'd have started having kids earlier and I'd have stopped having kids when my daughter was born, 'cause I love my daughter and wouldn't give her up even to improve my life
I admit to being puzzled why having a second child would be considered 'giving up' the first...?
ReplyDelete1. I'd have found out about Asperger's a lot sooner--before high school
ReplyDelete2. I'd have done something different for a career. I've always thought I'd have done well in the military and/or law, so if I were starting over I'd get a law degree and join the Army as a JAG.
3. I have a good wife but you have to figure that, with 20 years more insight, you could have picked someone better. Of course, then you have to persuade the better one to also pick you.